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You are very good at handling things

The problem is that you never seem to stop handling them.

Thoughtful, practical support for women who are tired of living with constant internal urgency and want to understand what is actually happening before trying to fix themselves again.

Work privately with me, or use self-guided tools in your own time.

No rigid system.

No single method you are expected to make work.

No assumption that everyone around you has to change before you can.

[Button - Start with the free reflection]Before You Fix Anything
A short guided reflection for women who rarely feel truly off duty.

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YOUR LIFE MAY BE WORKING

You're working.
The family is doing okay.
Things get done.
People count on you.


You're a capable and responsible person who's used to dealing with whatever comes next.
It might be hard to see what's going on from the outside.
But it's getting harder and harder to feel like you've finished.
When you're done with work, your mind keeps on going.


You sit down, but part of you is still thinking about what needs to happen next.
When a child mentions a problem, your brain starts solving it.
Your parent needs something.
There's a message you should probably answer.
You remember an appointment you still need to make.
If someone sounds irritated, you'll automatically take notice.


You realise you're tired.
And then you just keep going.
Sometimes there's just no obvious emergency.
But behind the scenes, it still feels like there's a lot to get through.
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PERHAPS YOU HAVE ALREADY TRIED TO FIX IT

  • Better routines.
  • Breathwork.
  • Meditation.
  • Journaling.
  • Gratitude.
  • Productivity systems.
  • Delegation.
  • Better communication.
  • A new habit.
  • Another list.
  • Etc.
Some of these things might've actually been useful.
Some may still be useful.
Some of them might've been useful in one area of your life but totally wrong in another.


And perhaps some left you with an uncomfortable thought:


Why isn’t this working for me?

Or worse:

What am I doing wrong?

There may be nothing wrong with the tool.

And there may be nothing wrong with you.

It may simply be the wrong tool, for this person, in this situation, at this moment.

That distinction matters.

It's always worth having a look before making any changes.

Notice before you fix.

My work starts with a question that might seem simple at first:

What is actually happening?

Not what should be happening.
Not what somebody else’s system says should happen.
Not what your partner, boss, children, parents or friends think should happen.
And not what you think you ought to be able to cope with.


We start with your actual experience. For example:

What's on your mind?
What does your body seem to be telling you?
Where does your attention go?
What things do you do without thinking?
What do you take responsibility for before consciously deciding whether it is yours?
What feels urgent?
What really needs to be done right away?
What are you trying to stop?
What are you trying to make someone else understand, want or do?
So, what do you already know about what you need, and what happens next?


Before we try another solution, we just make the situation more visible.

My Approach

The work is built around five recurring lenses.
They're not part of a set curriculum.
They are a way of looking.

NOTICE

What is happening? That can be thoughts, physical signals, reactions, attention, pressure, patterns.

The things you do without noticing that you have decided to do them.

UNDERSTAND

What are you actually dealing with? A real external demand? An automatic thought? A habit? A lack of support? An expectation? Something you can influence? Something that needs someone else to be on board? Something you can't control?

We don't need to make everything your responsibility to find where your agency lies.

CHOOSE

So, with all this in mind, what do you want to do now?

Act? Hang on? Just ask? Stop? Just reduce it? Keep it simple? Have the conversation? Stop having the same conversation over and over again? Seek support? Leave things a bit unfinished? Something else?

Or take a little longer to think about it before you decide.

The goal isn't to make the perfect choice.
It's more of a conscious choice.

EXPERIMENT

If it's useful, give it a go.

It can be a thought practice. A practical change. A resilience tool. Movement. Meditation. Breathwork. A different way of planning. A small change in your environment. Rest. A conversation. Not having a conversation.

The tool isn't the authority.
Your experience with it is important.

INTEGRATE

What did you learn? Did it help? Did it do nothing? Did it make things worse?

Was the tool wrong? Was the timing wrong? Would you use it again?

In the long run, this becomes much more useful than just collecting techniques.
You'll learn what works for you, when, and how you know.


Who this is for

This is for people who carry a lot – mentally and emotionally.

  • Parents.
  • Professionals.
  • People who handle things quietly and just keep going.
  • People who look like they’re coping, but deep down know they’re close to the edge.

You don’t want to meditate on a mountain.

You just want to think clearly again. Sleep better. React smarter. Worry less.

And that’s exactly what these tools are built for.

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Hi, I'm Susanne

I didn't arrive here by chance.
Actually, not at all.


For years, I experienced what happens when the things that are supposed to help you don't actually do the job.
I struggled with burnout, depression and anxiety for ages and tried all the usual stuff to feel better.
Some were useful.
Some of them turned out to be useful later on, but at the time, they were a bit tricky to get to.
Some didn't do much.
And some had a bit of an unintended consequence: they made me feel like I was failing at something else.


I get that I could be grateful for things even if I don't feel grateful.
I could know that I needed rest and carry on overriding myself.
I could talk, explain, organise and try harder, but I couldn't make someone respond the way I wanted them to.


At some point, something changed.

I started to lose interest in finding the technique I was meant to be mastering and found myself more interested in observing what was actually happening.

What am I thinking?
What am I feeling?
What's my body doing?
What am I doing automatically?
What happens right before I get overwhelmed?
What am I trying to control?
What actually helps?
What makes things worse?
What is mine to do — and what isn't?


That way of working with myself turned out to be much more useful than trying to force myself into someone else's definition of wellbeing.

It also became the foundation of the work I'm developing now.

Here's a list of the things I've done in my training:

• Coaching to help you bounce back

• Meditation tips

Yogalap is offering breathwork instruction.

• Heroic Coach training

I'm always working on my mental training, and I'm also doing more and more professional coaching.

These areas give me different perspectives and tools.

They don't give me a one-size-fits-all answer for your life.

I don't think qualifications make someone an expert in something.

How to get started

You don’t need time, energy or motivation. You just need a first step. And a tool that doesn’t overwhelm you.

In a few days you can download one (or both) of my tools here for 0 EUR:

  • the Stress Diary
  • the 3-Minute Reset

I'm also working on my structured self-coaching course:

Compact. Clear. Doable even with a full day.

You don't have to change everything. But you can start to deal with it differently.

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